“She was a baby,” the Fix My Life coach said in a phone interview.
“She was 19 year’s old and I was very clear that there were one of two paths I could go –I’ve either got to break her heart or I’ve got to make her angry — in order for her to get in touch with what was going on, but the bottom line is she was just a pressure cooker.” And for good reason, Iyanla added.
Then you meet your birth mother and your birth father who are basically telling you you’ve got to stay away from the woman that raised you.
I guess in one sense you should be glad you now know who your real mother and father are but you don’t know these people.” To put it frankly, “She didn’t have the capacity to handle what was coming out so, like adults, the easiest thing to do is act out in anger,” Iyanla added.
“She wouldn’t do it so that left me with the father, who is overly compliant with her and just trying to keep her comfortable and make her happy, the stepmother and the boyfriend.